50 Meditation Tips for Beginners

50 Awesome Mindfulness Meditation Tips for Beginners via Buddhaimonia, Zen for Everyday Life

The popularity of meditation, particularly mindfulness meditation, has exploded in recent years. Because of this, huge waves of people are just beginning their meditation practice, or still working out the kinks, and could use some simple guidance.

I don't pretend to know everything, but I have uncovered a number of tips and tricks from my own meditation practice over the years which I'd like to share here for everyone. I'm sure just about everyone can find at least a few tips from the 50 below which will help them move their practice forward or deepen their practice in general.

Below are 50 meditation tips for beginners starting their own meditation practice (centered around mindfulness meditation practices). The title says meditation tips for beginners, but the reality is even if you've practiced for a while there's probably at least few points here you can use to take your practice to the "next level" so to speak.

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50 Meditation Tips for Beginners

1. You can meditate anywhere

Meditation isn't just sitting in a crazy difficult folded leg position (the lotus position) with your eyes closed.

You can meditate anywhere, any time of day, and in multiple positions with multiple forms.

Expand your practice to your entire day and utilize multiple forms to see the real power of meditation. To learn how to meditate, or for ideas on where to start your practice, you can read How to Meditate for Beginners.

2. You don't have to close your eyes

It's a common misconception that you have to do meditate with your eyes closed, and while this is perfectly acceptable (for sitting meditation at least...), it's highly beneficial especially in the beginning to meditate with your eyes partly open to help you maintain alertness and avoid dozing off.

Many traditions and backgrounds meditate exclusively with eyes partly open, never closed.

3. Start simple

Don't jump right into walking meditation or mindful eating, start with breathing meditations. The most basic, most common, and most useful of which is mindful breathing.

This is essentially the same as sitting in meditation (with mindfulness of breath), so whether you sit or take a minute or two throughout your day to practice mindful breathing, whatever works for you is fine.

4. Walk it off

There's an exception to the last point. Whether you've just begun or have meditated for some time, if you feel a strong energy in your body, or are extra restless, you shouldn't force sitting in meditation, you should get up and walk slowly with mindfulness (walking meditation).

This is a common practice that helps the practitioner calm their nerves so that they can sit more successfully.

In the beginning, you should sit despite this restlessness, but if you've sat for a few weeks and still find yourself moderately restless it can be beneficial to do walking meditation for a moment and then sit after.

This is also a valuable advanced meditation tip for those who are experiencing an abnormal level of restlessness.

5. Find what works best for you

Once you've practiced mindful breathing for a few weeks I'd suggest you start trying out the various other forms of meditation. This usually begins with walking meditation and expands out to eating meditation, driving meditation, and so forth.

It's limitless really, and I wouldn't just dive into them without some instruction, but you're free to experiment, find what works best for you, and structure your meditation practice accordingly once you're passed the initial phase of practicing mindful breathing.

Keep in mind, I'm not saying don't sit in meditation, but I am saying that you can sit for half a day in meditation or you can sit for 30 minutes and do other meditative forms, like do walking meditation, and focus on simply living your everyday life as it is in mindfulness.

For anyone living a halfway "normal" life, this is generally much more effective and far more natural.

Even with regards to sitting meditation, there's no one way to do it. You can sit and be mindful of your breath, or you could mix it up and be mindful of the many sights and sounds within your field of awareness as well. Or you could even meditate on compassion from time to time.

The choice is up to you, so find what works best for you.

6. It usually takes practice (but not always)

Some people get the idea, that is, how to be mindful, almost immediately. But most people take a while to get the hang of it.

I was the latter, so if you're having some difficulty in your practice don't worry, it's only natural. There's no rhyme or reason to this, and those more proficient at first don't go on to be better at mindfulness, they just get it faster.

So don't be discouraged by this and think it "isn't for you" or something else discouraging. The challenges you're facing will actually help to strengthen your practice.

7. Soft focus, not hard

While mindful, it should feel as though you have a soft, but constant, focus on your object of meditation (your breath, steps, etc.) and of anything else that comes into your field of awareness, rather than a hard focus that makes you strain your eyeballs and hurt your brain.

If this is what you're doing simply relax a bit and remind yourself that you're not forcing your awareness, or focus, on one point.

Your object of meditation works more like an anchor helping you stay in the present moment, rather than a laser target that's concentrating your focus.

If you become drawn away, by a thought or sensation, this isn't a bad thing, it's only bad if you don't acknowledge it with your mindfulness.

These thoughts and sensations coming into your field of awareness are totally natural, and should be welcomed (of course after acknowledging them, come back to your object of meditation- breath, steps, etc.).

8. Don't worry about whether you're doing it right or not

I didn't get the hang of mindfulness right away, it took me some time. Get a good resource with instruction on how to meditate and simply follow it as best you can, practicing at least a little each day.

As long as you're doing that, don't worry about whether you're doing it right or not. With time, provided you're doing you best to follow the instruction, you'll get the hang of it.

9. Don't worry about your hands

I know you've probably seen pictures before of people meditating (who hasn't?). In those pictures, they were usually doing something specific with their hands, right? That specific hand placement is called a mudra (Sanskrit for "sign"), and it's generally meant to symbolize some important principle in the particular meditation or spiritual tradition that it originated from.

Mudras can be used to enhance your practice specifically while sitting in meditation, so feel free to use them, but in no way think that they're required.

10. Wake up

In a very literal sense, you should be wide awake when you attempt to meditate, especially sitting in meditation, as otherwise, it becomes very easy to doze off. If you're not, you might need to wait until a better time or find a way to wake yourself up beforehand.

This could be something simple like caffeine or something more complex like only meditating during a specific time in the day (such as an hour into your morning, when your energy is full and the sleepiness of the morning has worn off).

11. Stretch

While meditation isn't about rejecting anything or quieting your mind to the point where you stop thinking (an impossible and useless feat), the beginnings of meditation are about bringing the mind to rest.

This is because, before you do this, your mind will be too active to sit back and observe, which is the entire point.

A simple trick you can do to help this along is simply to stretch a bit before you begin meditating, as this will help to not only relax you but activate your body to some degree. It doesn't matter what you do, just pick a few simple stretches that relax you and do them for a minute or two before meditating.

12. Posture is important

Your ability to stay focused while meditating is directly connected to your posture.

Without proper posture, you're more likely to doze off and improper posture is usually an obstruction to your breathing.

To some degree, this isn't something you have to worry all that much about, as often just becoming fully present will make you realize you're slouching and stand up straight. But in any case, make sure while sitting in meditation that your back and neck are straight.

13. You don't have to sit in the lotus position

If you don't know it, the lotus position is that position which involves sitting cross-legged and then placing each leg on top of the opposite thigh.

The lotus position is not something that everyone is capable of doing (or should try doing) even with practice.

Feel free to sit in a chair, it really doesn't matter. Keep the main thing the main thing, and that's the actual act of meditating. Everything else is there simply to help support your practice, even physical positioning.

14. Don't sit and meditate on a full stomach

Zen students avoid meditating on a full stomach, as this generally leads to an increased tendency to doze off. Of course, it can be equally bad to meditate while you're starving, so I'd suggest against that too.

It's not as difficult as it sounds, just something to stay mindful of as it can affect your sitting meditation specifically.

15. Half-smile

In the beginning of your practice, or even if you've practiced for some time and just had a tough day, the stress and general restlessness you're feeling can make it really difficult to meditate.

To combat this, adopt a simple half-smile. We hold a huge amount of tension and stress in our facial muscles, and a light smile (a half-smile) can relieve much of that tension and stress. It's a simple act with a powerful effect.

16. When questions arise, stay focused and mindful

In the beginning, it's natural to become frustrated with your practice and wonder what you're doing, why it isn't working, or just feel like quitting.

During this time you need to meditate more than ever. Stay focused and know that it's just a part of the process (largely, just the process of removing the jitters and stress from your body).

With time, your mind will calm and you'll find a great sense of peace from your practice again, often even more than before the ordeal.

17. Count

Don't just breathe (or walk, chew, etc.), while being mindful it's highly useful to count while doing so. Counting to yourself helps keep you awake to the moment and helps you notice when you've become distracted.

You can simply count from 1-10, one number for each inhale or exhale. So: inhale (one), exhale (two), inhale (three), and exhale (four). If you notice yourself slip, start the 10 count over.

If you have a heavily productivity centered mindset you might find yourself trying to cheat here. Don't, there's no point. All you'll end up doing is fooling yourself and hurting your own practice.

The quality of your practice is dependent upon your willingness to be honest with yourself. This technique can really help you improve your practice, so don't get in the way of your own ability to get the most from your practice.

18. Set a timer

If you don't set a timer, you'll have no idea when to stop and often end up pausing your meditation to glance at a clock constantly, interrupting your practice and making yourself even more uncomfortable and distracted.

By setting a timer you can relax and focus on your meditation practice, knowing you won't go over your time and miss what you have to do afterward.

19. Don't set a timer

OK, a timer isn't always a good idea. In general, my rule with a timer is that it's good to use one, but keep it in a place where you can't see it or get to it, such as up on your desk while you sit several feet away on the floor, and with your chair blocking your computer screen for good measure.

This way there's no way for you to find out what time it is during your meditation, but you still know your timer is set, and so can rest comfortably knowing that you should just stay focused since your timer will tell you when you're done.

But even after doing this, sometimes just knowing there's a timer set can be the very cause of your restlessness. If you find that happening, just don't set a timer.

Sitting without a timer can be really pleasant, and is the way I almost always meditate. It feels more natural, like I'm free to just float off as long as I please. Of course this is a luxury I'm not always afforded, and the likelihood is neither will you, but when possible it can be really nice.

20. Don't sit longer than you can

Even so, after calming yourself before meditating and using a timer in the proper way, in the beginning at least, you'll grow increasingly more restless as time goes on.

Maybe that time is 5 minutes, maybe it's 10, or maybe it's 20. Whatever it is, if you've only been meditating for a week, a month, or even a few months, there's a time period you'll get to where you just can't sit any longer before feeling like you're crawling out of your skin.

Once you get to that point, just stop sitting. It's as simple as that. There's no reason to push it. If you do this consistently, each day, you'll gradually be able to sit down for longer and longer periods until the point where you feel as though you could sit forever peacefully without this feeling ever arising.

This stage is the goal, but there's no rush to get there. Take your time, and don't sit longer than you feel you can.

21. Start sitting for 5 minutes

When you begin your sitting meditation practice, simply sit for 5 minutes. Don't attempt to sit for 10, 20, or more even if you think you can.

Don't think you're Mr. or Ms. hot-shot and go into your practice ego-first, that's a sure way to stumble hard right from the get-go and lose the motivation to keep practicing. Just do 5 minutes and then expand later only IF you feel comfortable enough to do so.

By sticking to this, even if you feel you can do more, you make the idea of meditation a simple and quick practice in your mind, and this helps establish it as a daily habit.

22. Work in blocks of 5

With that being said, it's generally best to increase your meditation in series of 5-minute blocks.

Let's say on Monday you begin meditating, and one or two Mondays later you begin feeling pretty comfortable while meditating for 5 minutes, no longer feeling the intense restlessness you once felt after a few minutes of meditating.

That's a good sign you're ready to begin meditating for 10 minutes, at which point you should test it out and see how it goes. If you feel it a little tough towards the end, you can always push through it.

But if the difficulty is intense, as I mentioned earlier, there's no reason to push it, so just go back to 5 minutes for another couple of days.

23. Have a meditation space

It's important, at least with your sitting meditation practice, just as with work and family, to have a space designated for the activity.

By doing so, when you go to sit down in meditation distractions go away, you become focused, and overall become more able to cultivate a strong meditation practice.

You shouldn't limit your meditation practice to this one place, but it's still important to have a place like this you can go to that's reserved for your practice. This is your Zen space, as I discussed in a previous post (which was an exclusive preview of a Zen for Everyday Life chapter as well).

24. Read a book, or get instruction

You don't have to get personal instruction, but it's important to at least read a book on meditation to get detailed instruction on the practice, preferably various forms of meditation you can use throughout your life and for various purposes (focus on one at first though).

This is all but necessary, as otherwise you're shooting in the dark and aren't completely sure if you're doing it right.

25. Don't restrict your practice to the meditation cushion

By this I mean don't restrict your practice to sitting meditation only. As I mentioned, you can meditate anywhere and at any point in your day, no matter what you're doing. But it can be easy to get comfortable and just stop there.

This is greatly limiting your practice. Once you get the hang of sitting in meditation, begin to try out other forms of meditation.

Most importantly, bring mindfulness into your everyday life.

26. Get a good audiobook (or a couple)

This will really help you take your meditation practice beyond the cushion and into your everyday life, on top of being the perfect complement to your book. With audio, you can take your practice with you wherever you go.

I love listening to audiobooks in my car (mostly Alan Watts right now) and still occasionally use them elsewhere as well. Test it out for yourself and see how it helps.

27. Try guided meditations

Rolling off of this point, in the beginning, it can be beneficial to try out some guided meditations. These are enjoyable at varying levels of practice but are especially helpful for anyone beginning with meditation.

Guided meditations are also nice for the same reason audiobooks are- you can take them anywhere and listen to them at just about any point in your day.

28. Let others know you're serious

Let your friends and family know that you're serious about your meditation practice. This is important for a few reasons, but an example would be letting those you live with know not to interrupt you during your sitting meditation practice.

For that purpose, if you live with others and you meditate, say, in your room, then you can hang a sign on your doorknob once you begin your meditation. There are various ways this can manifest, though, so you'll have to look at your own life and take the necessary steps to let those around you know how important your practice is to you.

29. Reduce distractions

I'm talking specifically about sitting meditation here, but if you have a scheduled time for walking meditation, or even just plan to eat your lunch or another meal in mindfulness, then it's important to reduce distractions as much as possible to improve your practice.

30. Meditate with friends and family

You might think that meditation is a private affair, but it's not. Meditation is greatly enhanced when two or more people sit, walk, or meditate in any other way, together. Try it and see for yourself.

31. Sit in the morning

Whether you're a night owl or an early riser, it can be very beneficial to begin meditating once you rise in the morning. A daily morning meditation practice is probably the single most powerful morning ritual you can adopt. It will literally transform the rest of your life with a consistent daily practice.

32. If your interest begins to wane, reaffirm your practice

This might happen, and it might not. Due to the sometimes difficult nature of meditation, but probably more importantly just because sticking to anything for any length of time can be difficult, it may be necessary at times to reaffirm your practice.

By this I mean remember why you began meditating in the first place. Typically, coming back to your book or audio can be highly beneficial in these cases as they'll remind you of how powerful and beneficial your practice can be and usually be mixed with enough encouraging words to keep you going.

In general, if this does happen, it will only be a phase. So stay strong, reaffirm your practice, and keep moving. It will wear off. Once this happens, your practice will be stronger than ever.

33. Discover the power of silence

You might be compelled to listen to some peaceful music or something while meditating, and at times this can be OK, but in general I'd suggest you learn the value of silence.

Silence is a powerful and almost mystical thing really which can often leave us with no real way of describing the experience itself (of sitting in silence, for instance). Silence is healing and revitalizing, so learn the power of silence now. Not just in sitting meditation, but in all forms of meditation: silent walking, silent eating, silent driving, etc.

Test it out- it's a beautiful and highly nourishing practice.

34. Use bodily signals to uncover and deal with strong emotions

It can be difficult to sit with strong emotions, like sadness or anger. To help this, it can be valuable to focus your concentration (or object of meditation, where you place your attention- typically your breath, steps, etc.) on your body.

Practicing mindfulness of the body can help detect these strong emotions, and sometimes, when you're feeling restless and don't even exactly know what you're feeling, identifying where on your body you're feeling changes can help you identify what emotion it is that you're feeling.

Overall, whether you've already identified the emotion or not, practicing mindfulness of body can help to bring these emotions into perspective.

It helps you see that these emotions aren't any different from the rest of your body's natural processes and helps shed their sometimes monstrous cloak which make them feel to us like they're these impossible forces to overcome (which they're not).

35. Don't jump up

Once you've finished your meditation session, don't immediately get up and rush off to the rest of your day. It's important to take a moment after your meditation to stay in this relaxed state, look around, let your thoughts come back to you slowly, and get up only once you feel you're ready.

Doing so will make your practice more enjoyable and help break the habit of rushing from place to place.

36. Have fun

Ultimately, your practice should be a great sense of joy. You won't always enjoy it, as we talked about earlier you may run into problems or your motivation to keep practicing might wane, but these things will be temporary and you'll soon go back to your "usual" practice.

And this practice should be highly enjoyable, bringing you in touch with the limitless beauty and peace of all the things within your everyday life.

37. Find a community

This is in no way required, but finding a meditation community can be both highly beneficial to your practice and greatly rewarding in your life as a whole.

Meditation done in groups is far more effective than alone, so even just one weekly group meditation session with people can be of great benefit. This could mean simply bringing your friends and family in on your practice as I talked about earlier, or it could mean joining a local meditation group. 

Whatever you decide to do, finding a group of people to practice with is something to strongly consider.

38. Mindfulness isn't about quieting the mind

Know that mindfulness isn't about getting to a point where your mind is literally quiet like the dead of night, so don't get frustrated if even after a year of meditation you still have thoughts popping up regularly.

The purpose of mindfulness is to calm your mind to the point where you can observe it with clarity. You'll never completely quiet the mind, and nor is this the point.

You'll greatly calm the mind and derive a great source of peace from your meditation despite this. This is definitely one of the most important points on this list because it's not just a common mistake beginners make but also a common misconception even among those who practice (at least those who haven't practiced for long).

39. Meditation forms are generally separated by position, but there are various forms of meditation for each position

Let's take walking for instance. You might think that there's only one form of walking meditation. That is, walking while being mindful of your steps.

This is the most common, but while walking you can also be mindful of the sensations you're experiencing, especially if you're outside, such as the wind hitting you and the heat from the sun on your body.

The most common forms of meditation are generally the most common because they're the most universal and straightforward, but it doesn't mean there aren't ways to mix it up. Doing so can really take your practice to a different level, allowing you so many other varied methods of living with mindfulness and offering new opportunities to deepen your practice.

40. Stick with it

Meditation, in all its forms, is like anything else in life. If meditation is something you want to make a daily practice, you'll need to work to establish it as a habit, and that means wrestling against all those negative habit energies that will likely try and get in the way.

It won't take long to really start cementing meditation as a daily practice, but things will come up from time to time that will try to throw a wrench in your practice.

Just stick with it, the longer you take your practice the more consistent you'll become and the less effort it will take to stick with it.

41. Create a lifestyle and a daily practice, not a habit

The whole "21 days to create a habit" myth has been handily debunked in recent years, but in general anything you want to make a new habit is something you've decided you'd like to be a new part of your life for at least an extended period of time, if not the rest of your life.

Because of this, it's better to stop thinking about creating habits in a short term sense and to start thinking about designing your life as a whole. This will help give you perspective and instill patience in you and is more accurate to what you're trying to do.

We tend to focus too much on what it takes to create a habit, when in reality even once you've gotten to that point (whatever that point is), that thing still requires consistent upkeep or else you'll fall off.

There is no magical point where a habit is just automatic for the rest of your life, only varying levels where something becomes easier and requires less effort. Have a long-term vision for your practice, and stop being pulled along by the "get it done" attitude so many of us have.

42. Your mindfulness is nonjudgmental, thoughts themselves are not

Don't get confused, while mindful awareness itself is nonjudgmental- that is, while being mindful you're simply observing without purposely thinking anything and making any judgments- it doesn't mean judgmental thoughts won't arise while being mindful.

Mindfulness and mental activity are two totally separate things. Mindfulness observes this mental activity nonjudgmentally, but the mental activity itself sprouting from you while meditating encompasses all of you, and that includes thoughts that have to do with your beliefs and opinions.

If you notice a thought like this pop up during your meditation, don't think you're doing it wrong. As long as you're acknowledging the thought itself nonjudgmentally with your mindfulness, you're right on track.

The point is, in a way, to make no purposeful effort to think or enter your mind. But your thoughts are their own monster, and they'll continue to bubble up whether you try to think about something or not. Your "effort" is to observe nonjudgmentally, not to condemn judgmental thoughts which arise.

43. Don't take your thoughts, well...personally

Your thoughts are not the "you" you imagine them to be. This might be difficult to see for now, but know that your thoughts are their very own monster. As I just mentioned, without even trying, while meditating thoughts will pop up. And these thoughts can sometimes be uncomfortable.

But begin realizing now that those thoughts are not you, so you should in no way judge yourself for what thoughts arise. Not just while you're being mindful, but ever.

Thoughts arise because of our life experiences, the effect they have on us, our interpretation of the whole thing, and general imagination which when broken down we see is hardly the "us" we imagine when thinking of ourselves.

Don't take your thoughts personally, know that they'll pop up no matter what you do and involve a lot more than "you" and you'll be able to begin distancing yourself from them. If you can learn to do this, which meditation will naturally do, you'll experience a great sense of relief.

44. Stop trying to win at meditation

Most of us are so productivity-obsessed and goal oriented that when we begin to practice meditation of any kind we tend to apply these same ideas to our meditation practice. This isn't in any way your fault, it's just something that's been ingrained in most of us since we were little (it certainly was for me).

But this can only damage your practice and lead you to take less from it than you could, ironically. You can't win at meditation, plain and simple. It isn't a game, and there are no shortcuts. No matter how hard you try, aside from dedicating yourself to a daily practice and striving to be mindful during each moment in your everyday life, you have to let your practice develop on your own.

You'll only discourage yourself and quit if you try to apply this same productivity mindset to meditation because it just doesn't work that way. Stop trying to win at meditation and rest simply feeling the peace of the present moment.

45. You can just be, too

You don't have to be doing anything in particular to meditate, you can literally just sit or stand and be fully awake to everything around you. A sort of "global awareness", this form of mindful awareness is the act of simply letting everything within your field of awareness come to you equally.

It's a highly nourishing practice which can often leave you feeling a profound sense of interconnectedness with everything around you. This is a nice practice to do from time to time, the literal expression of non-striving, and simply being one with the moment fully.

46. Start where you zone out

Once you've practiced some basic form of meditation for a few weeks, it can be highly beneficial to target some other activity during your day where you tend to zone out and bring mindfulness into it.

This won't just have the "usual" impact. Making a typical zone-out activity, such as driving, into a meditation can completely transform the rest of your day for the better. The great part about this is the activities you usually zone out on are the activities you do most often, so if you pick something like walking or driving you'll also be targeting a major part of literally every single day. This can have a hugely beneficial effect on your entire life.

47. Look for "moments of nourishment"

Find it difficult to carve out time to sit and meditate? One of the great things about mindfulness is you can do it anywhere, and that means even those times you typically feel are wasted like sitting in a waiting room or in your car during a long commute.

These are what I call potential "moments of nourishment", little bits of time in your day where you can slip in your meditation practice that would otherwise be unproductive or just boring wastes of time.

Of course, your goal should be to practice mindfulness throughout your day, but practicing in this way is a really effective way to grow your practice in the beginning and can have a big impact on your stress level and help you find a sense of peace between the chaos and craziness of your everyday activities.

48. Use a book to remind you

I carry a Moleskine book I call my "book of mindfulness", which has various verses and phrases meant to help instill greater awareness in me throughout my day. It's a great little book which has been of much use to me.

But the greatest part about the book? Because it sits in my pocket, it reminds me to be mindful throughout my day. Reminders such as these are powerful, and can really help you establish a daily meditation practice. You can read more about my little notebook in The Little Book of Mindfulness.

49. Be in nature

Simply sitting or walking in nature and being mindful of the many sights or sounds within your field of awareness is highly nourishing and helps to improve your mindfulness practice. With the high amount of stimuli you can't help but be fully present for what's going on around you, and this helps you develop your mindfulness and gives you a reference point for when you practice during your everyday life.

50. Focus, work in chunks

Once you've begun meditating and really seen some positive effects from your practice, it can be pretty exciting. That is, the idea that you can meditate with your whole life and bring more of those feelings into so many of the other activities you do in your everyday life.

You can be mindful anywhere and everywhere and throughout your entire day. But, at least in the beginning, what actually ends up happening is usually a bit rockier than this attractive fantasy of a day filled with peace and joy.

The likelihood is, you'll forget to me mindful constantly and have a hard time developing a strong daily practice. The universal application of mindfulness is great, but it also tends to make us feel lost in the beginning. Where do we begin?

Even if we know that we should start by practicing sitting meditation, or at the least following our breath, the next step can be fuzzy. Unless we focus on one or a few activities at a time, we tend to end up overwhelmed and don't practice it at all (or sporadically, and never make it a daily habit).

For this reason, it's highly beneficial to work in chunks. For instance, after you've practiced mindful breathing for a few weeks, you can then add walking and driving meditation to your daily practice.

Don't worry about being mindful at any other point in your day, even if you know that you can. Simply take the next 4 weeks to practice walking and driving meditation at every chance you get and make those activities new mindful habits.

Once you've established those, or at least gotten them to a point where you generally remember to do them consistently and can then add something else in, pick one or two more activities and tackle those.

After a while, you'll start becoming mindful throughout large portions of your day and often remind yourself to practice without any effort at all, but at first it's important to focus on just a few activities at a time to gradually build the foundation of your practice.

Learn to Meditate

Below are resources to help you learn the practice of mindfulness meditation and associated practices:

Creating a home meditation practice:

  1. How to Meditate for Beginners
  2. ZfEL Ep. 8: How to Create a Home Meditation Practice
  3. 10 Ways to Make Meditation a Daily Habit
  4. 5 Tools to Help You Start Your Home Meditation Practice
  5. My free eBook: The Little Book of Mindfulness
  6. What is Mindfulness? A Guide to Mindfulness Meditation
  7. The Buddha’s Guide to Mindfulness Practice
  8. 10 Awesome Tips and Tricks for Beginning with Mindfulness
  9. The Beginner’s Guide to Walking Meditation

Free Guided Meditations:

Below are guided meditation episodes made freely available for your use. Learn to meditate with these guided meditations:

  1. Mindfulness Meditation / Mindful Breathing
  2. Mindful Walking (formal practice)
  3. Mindful Walking (out-and-about in your daily life)
  4. Mindful Welcome
  5. Mindful Driving

*This list will grow quickly in the future. Each week I feature a new guided meditation on the Zen for Everyday Life podcast. You can listen to the podcast on the blog here or on iTunes here:

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How to Find Peace and De-Stress with a Simple Tea Meditation

"The art of the tea Way consists simply of boiling water, preparing tea and drinking it." - Rikyu

About a month ago, I wrote an article titled 7 Morning Rituals That Will Change Your Life. People enjoyed the article in general, but one of those morning rituals, in particular, interested a great number of people. The morning ritual? You guessed it- tea meditation.

It's because of the response I've gotten that I decided to write an article exclusively on this beautiful meditation practice.

I practice tea meditation every morning as soon as I wake up (around 3 A.M.). It not only is its own beautiful practice, but it acts as the perfect complement to my sitting meditation practice, which can be difficult to do when first waking up early in the morning (more like impossible oftentimes).

The caffeine in the green tea I drink helps wake me up and allows me to be just as alert as I need to be for my morning meditation practice. But that's just the start of it.

This simple tea meditation is an altogether beautiful and nourishing practice which brings me a greater sense of peace and helps cultivate a strong sense of gratitude in me.

It's for this reason that it's quickly become one of my most favorite forms of meditation.

Tea, originally used for medicinal purposes, was born in China some 1800 years ago (about 200 A.D.).

Fast forward a few hundred years and tea had transformed into a popular drink across all of China, at one point being China's official "national drink".

Tea came to Japan years later when a Japanese Zen monk by the name of Eisai Zenji, who was studying in China as many Zen students of that time did, brought tea seeds back to his country in the 12th century (around 1100 A.D.).

Tea was quickly adopted by the Japanese and became an important part of the Japanese culture. Zen monks even adopted it as a way to stay awake during their meditations.

But even outside of that, tea fit perfectly in with the life of a Zen monk.

The powerful aroma, calming qualities, and ordinary everyday nature of drinking tea made it an easy inclusion in the daily life of the Zen monk who made it their "life's mission" to find satori (enlightenment, or sudden awakening) in the midst of typical everyday activities.

Tea then naturally evolved, at least for those students of Zen, into yet another beautiful form of meditation.

Zen and the Japanese Way of Tea

The Japanese tea ceremony, or "chanoyu", is inseparable from Zen. As I mentioned above, it itself is a form of Zen meditation.

The Japanese tea ceremony can be summed up by the Zen phrase "ichi-go ichi-e", which means "one time, one meeting". The phrase is meant to remind us of the beauty and uniqueness of the present moment and that life is transient or ever-changing and impermanent.

This is exactly how the Japanese tea ceremony is performed. In Japan, this would usually be performed by two people, who would create no less than an experience from the simple and ordinary act of drinking a cup of tea.

Aware that this moment is totally and completely unique, and will never come again as it is right now, you drink your tea with complete awareness and appreciation of the moment.

Another interesting note about the Japanese tea ceremony is that it's not just about being fully awake in the moment, it's also about living the moment with an open heart.

Those who would prepare the tea would do so with every consideration of their guest, and both people would be completely present for each other's company.

There's an interesting story about Sen no Rikyu, the founder of the Japanese Way of Tea (or Japanese tea ceremony), that sums both points up nicely:

When asked by a student to say something about the most important teachings of the Tea Ceremony, Sen no Rikyu, the founder of the Japanese Way of Tea, responded,

"First you must make a delicious bowl of tea; lay the charcoal so the water boils; arrange the flowers as they are in the field; in the summer suggest coolness, in the winter, warmth; do everything ahead of time; prepare for rain; and give those with whom you find yourself every consideration."

The student was disappointed with this response and said he already knew all that. Rikyu told him if he could do all that well, then Rikyu himself would be his student.

Of course, the student missed Rikyu's full message. To simply do those things in the ordinary way is easy, but to do them fully with mindfulness and an open heart, that is, to absolutely and completely give every ounce of yourself to the moment of preparing and drinking the tea, and to give yourself fully to the person with which you were drinking the tea with, is what he really meant.

And that is no easy task.

A Simple Tea Meditation

The Japanese tea ceremony is quite a ritual, and depending on what school (yes, there's schools!) you follow the ritual will be different.

But I feel that, while at times beautiful and meaningful, these rituals often dilute the essence and overcomplicate that which should be kept simple.

The below tea meditation, which is the same tea meditation I do almost every morning, is simple, easy to do, and profoundly nourishing and beneficial. The steps are as follows:

1. Make your tea

You should do everything- from each step of preparing your tea, to sitting down, to drinking your tea, to finishing, and cleaning up- in mindfulness.

No matter how you choose to prepare your tea, what tea you drink, where you drink your tea, do so carefully with a complete awareness of the present moment. Give yourself completely to the entire process of preparing and drinking your tea.

Once your tea is made, find a nice quiet place for you to sit and drink it. Once you've sat down, take a moment before starting to "simply sit" with your tea.

Notice the aroma of the tea, admire the look and color of the tea, and imagine the delicate balance that had to be kept for the tea to go from being a leaf on a tree (likely from another country) to becoming the delightful cup of tea in front of you.

2. Give thanks

Before you begin drinking, take a moment to give thanks for the cup of tea in front of you.

Contemplate for a moment on the fact that people all around the world don't even have clean drinking water, yet you can sit and enjoy an amazing cup of warm tea whenever you so choose.

Appreciate the cup of tea and everything that had to happen, and the careful balance that had to be maintained, for you to experience this amazing cup of tea.

Express your gratitude for all those things which helped make your cup of tea a reality, and for a moment expand that thought to yourself and the knowledge that you also depend on infinite living and non-living things to exist as you are now in this moment just as the tea does.

Sit with those feelings for a minute or two before beginning.

3. Drink your tea

This is the main event. Your tea has been prepared, you've expressed your appreciation, and now it's time to drink.

All you have to do is drink your tea fully with mindfulness. Take it slow, only drinking very small sips at a time. You should be taking your time and really savoring every sip.

Specifically, while you drink, your object of concentration can be various things.

I often focus my mindfulness on the raising of my arm, and then of the sip, swallowing, then lowering of the arms, and lastly take a few nice deep breaths before taking another sip. This should be cycled throughout the length of the meditation.

And as usual, any thoughts, feelings, or sensations that arise while doing each individual activity simply gets gently acknowledged and I proceed to go back to my object of meditation.

Fully commit to the act of drinking your tea, whether you're with someone else or alone. Be fully awake for the practice of drinking your tea, understanding that this moment and this tea will never exist again.

4. Give thanks (again)

Once you're done (again, the length of your meditation is up to you, it could be 10 minutes and it could be one hour), give thanks once again like you did in the beginning.

It's important to finish the practice like we started, helping put the tea, and the meditation, in perspective.

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This simple tea meditation, which can be done in as little as 10 minutes and as long as one full hour (it's really up to you), has a whole list of great benefits:

  1. Cultivate a sense of gratitude and a deep reverence for life
  2. Reduce stress and find greater peace and clarity of mind
  3. It's a great morning ritual to start your day off with
  4. All the benefits of meditating with mindfulness
  5. All the health benefits of drinking tea (depends on what tea you drink, but many types of tea are very healthy)
  6. Great preparatory as well as supporting practice for your sitting meditation
  7. It's great to invite friends and family in on to show them the same benefits and to nurture your relationships

To finish, here's a great video of a similar tea meditation done by Thich Nhat Hanh. This video can help you get an idea of what it's actually like to simply sit with your cup of tea in mindfulness:

Tea meditation is a perfect example of that fact that you can experience magic in even the most ordinary activities of your everyday life.

Whether you're drinking tea alone or with a friend or loved one, be fully awake for the drinking of the tea and open your heart to the world around you. Learn how to do this and any everyday activity can be transforming.

15 Things You Should Know When You're Having a Bad Day

 The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.

- Alan Watts

A rough day at work, a big fight with your spouse, the loss of a loved one, a setback in your business, personal issues you can't seem to get away from, the fight of addiction, and countless other challenges.

We all have different types of challenges, but we all have challenges.

We all have stress, we all experience pain, and we all ultimately suffer in some way and at some point in our lives.

But this doesn't mean that's all there is. Life isn't some big dark ball of sadness and tough times. If you know how, you can completely transform your challenges into moments of great love, gratitude, and appreciation.

The mind ultimately has problems when it closes up and centers in around itself. Conversely, it transcends problems when it opens up and expands its awareness to the whole world or reality in its entirety.

The 15 points below will not only comfort you and help you gain clarity, they'll also show you how to see into the true nature of the difficulty you're facing, transforming its meaning and ultimately changing its effect on you for the better.

15 Things You Should Know When You're Having a Bad Day

1. It's only as bad as you think it is

To some, it might go without saying, but we tend to blow things out of proportion. When something happens, however big or small, we often to imagine that our lives will be forever changed in a significant way. Or worse, that our lives are over altogether.

And then something interesting happens: the situation plays out, time goes by, and you go back to largely the same life or literally your identical life from before. This is because, for the most part, we live in our heads.

So when something happens it's not about what's happening but more about what we think and feel about what's happening, and we almost always think things are worse than they are.

The best thing you can do right now is just to get out of your head. Look around you and see reality for what it is instead of wallowing in the prison that we often make of our minds.

It's your choice how you react to the challenge, tragedy, or difficulty. That might sound a bit simplistic, but it's a fact we so often forget, or just ignore, and it's a powerful truth that you can use to change how you feel about what happened.

Even if it occurred a while back, you can still choose how you feel about it. By taking a moment to look deeply into the situation and pulling what positives you can from it, you can completely change the way you look at the situation.

2. You need the bad to have the good

"Good" and "bad", life and death, destruction and creation, and peace and suffering are all two sides of the same coin. They exist simultaneously at once on the same spectrum, constantly at play with one another in one great big cosmic dance. Without one, the other wouldn't exist.

This means that without your challenges, without your struggles, and without any of your hard times you wouldn't even know what peace or happiness was. You have to go through the time times to know what it means to be happy and at peace.

Use this knowledge to cultivate a deep appreciation for your challenges. And understand that peace and happiness don't exist solely within the good times, it exists within understanding the deeper meaning of this truth so as to transcend both and life perpetually unaffected by either in a higher state of peace. A place where joy abounds in good times and in bad.

3. It will pass (all of it, so appreciate it now)

Regardless of what you're going through, know that the stress, pain, and all the suffering you feel as a result of it is as temporary as the situation itself. Everything in life is impermanent, and this includes your challenges, stresses, and any bad day.

There's always a new day to look forward to filled with new possibilities, and the pain will subside in due time. Life acts much like a wave, where the trough or dip is a time filled with stress and difficulty, and the crescent or rise is the definition of good times. But it's because of this impermanence that difficulties arise when we cling to the various things in our life.

The "trick" is to learn how to live in a way that you're ever aware of the impermanence of all things and to live without clinging to any specific thoughts, views, and living or non-living things while still abiding in the natural flow of the ocean of life.

If you do this then the impermanence of life will become a reason to celebrate and express gratitude, love, and appreciation for everything in it and you'll simultaneously no longer be dragged down when things change for the "worse".

Don't get the wrong idea, though. This doesn't mean you won't care when a loved one passes, rather it means that because of your deeper understanding of life you're suffering will be overwhelmed by a deep sense of love and appreciation for the time you were able to spend with them, transforming the experience into something deeper, more profound, and more nourishing than the experience without this understanding.

4. Blessings are there, even in the worst of times

In every moment, whether good or bad, there's an infinite number of things to be grateful for. Whether it's access to clean drinking water and nutritious food, a roof over your head, access to the internet and communication with the world around you, or the love of your friends and family, there's certain things that most of us are lucky enough to have around us at all times that we usually take for granted.

One of the most powerful things you can do when you're experiencing tough times is to think of all the things you have to be grateful for. Start with all the obvious things and then move all the way down the list until you have to really sit and think about the things you do or have with you in your everyday life that are always there but which you never notice.

This has the ability to "even out" your emotions and perspective of the overall situation. By realizing you still have countless things to be grateful in your life you step back from your self-centered viewpoint of the world as crumbling down around you to a world of infinite beauty and blessings, and this evening out of your general perspective of the world and your life can greatly help you overcome any situation.

5. There's wisdom in every experience

By this, I'm not referring to life as some human-like consciousness or higher being trying to teach you some lesson. I mean this in a much more grounded and personally observable way. On your path, living this life, there are various experiences which will either show you or confirm in you something important.

If you live your life consciously then you'll be able to find the bit of wisdom that expressed in the situation. Let's say you were just dumped by your girlfriend or boyfriend. Or worse, just split from your husband or wife.

In this case, the lesson or reminder could be that everything in life is impermanent and that you need to go with the natural flow of life, unattached yet fully experiencing life first-hand in all its joy and beauty.

6. Each moment is a fresh new moment

Each and every day is a completely new reality. And each new moment in that day is a fresh new moment. No matter what happened, no matter what you're still going through, you can decide to completely turn things around by realizing that you're not chained to the past in any way.

Each new moment is unbound to the past, with every possibility to be completely different from the way things were or have been, and the future is no more than a pool of potentiality within our minds, so don't let yourself be pinned down by either.

See the beauty of each new moment and realize that each moment brings the opportunity to completely change everything for the better. Get out of your head and live fully in the present moment with mindfulness and you'll realize the infinite possibilities that exist right in front of you.

7. You can change the past

You can literally change your past experiences. Don't believe me? Think about something that's happened in the past. I'll use myself as an example.

When I was in high school, it was nothing special. I learned very little, didn't do anything all that great, and generally went through life half-asleep while being directed more by my impulses and immediate desires than conscious decisions.

That was back when I was in high school. I'm not in high school anymore. Now? I think high school was very special. I learned a number of very important life lessons and ultimately look on it as an overall pleasant experience.

But wait, that's literally changing my definition of the past, isn't it? And to change what you think- what you define a past experience as- is to change the past itself.

You literally have the ability to change the past. This is because what goes on in our heads is often just as real as what goes on outside. In fact, a good part of our past experience is often just that: a collection of thoughts and feelings about the past experience while we were in the moment, not only the past event itself.

If you learn this point thoroughly, you'll see that it's entirely up to you to decide what this experience is going to mean to you. And that's a pretty powerful realization.

8. You're not a victim

It's only natural to want to beat yourself up when bad things happen, so don't kick yourself for doing it. Someone gets hurt or we do something we regret and the "what if"s start popping like popcorn. We think, "What if I hadn't left?", "What if I hadn't said that?", "What if I didn't do that?", or "What if I had just done that one thing?"

It's natural to think that life is just pelting you with crap sometimes, like there's this big dude just resting on a cloud above you messing with you for the fun of it. But don't let yourself fall into this common thought pattern. You're not a victim, and it's not your fault.

Life happens to everyone, and the bad comes with the good, so it's not that your just here to be tortured, it's that life is just sometimes tough. You need to realize that there's always something you can do about any situation. In fact, that's essentially what this entire article about.

9. Go home to your breath

No matter what's going on around you, inside of you, above or below your breath is always there. It never goes away, never abandons you, and feels everything you feel. If you're angry, breath becomes heavy. If you're at peace, breath becomes long and deep. No matter what's going on, breath reflects the situation.

No matter what you can always go home to your breath. When you're going through challenges your body and mind will tend to "separate" in a sense and this leads to all kinds of problems. By going home to your breath you have the ability to ground yourself like a tree who has extended its roots deep into the soil.

Trees can weather heavy storms, and by going home to your breath and reuniting body and mind you bring peace to your breath and consequently bring peace to yourself.

10. All you can do is take it one step at a time

If all you have is the now, the present moment, and you can only ever do any one thing in this moment, then when it really comes down to it all you can do is take it one single step at a time.

Things might be really tough right now, but we can't just cast a spell and make it all disappear. And while you might have help, no one is going to do as much to help you as you and no one else can even begin to help you unless you want to help yourself.

The weight of the situation is just too much to make any large plans or to think with clarity, so all you can do is look directly in front of you and take it one single positive step at a time.

There might be a lot going on right now, and you might not know exactly how you're going to get out of it, but if you take it step by step those little actions will really begin to add up. And if you keep going, focusing on the next step in front of you and nothing else, then eventually you'll turn around and see you completely transformed the situation for the better.

11. Get out of your head and into the present

As you work out the problem, whatever it is that you're going through, you should do so in the present reality. Don't get caught up in your mind thinking the "what if"s, getting down on yourself, or worrying about what's going to happen in the future. One of the best things you can do for yourself right now is to witness reality exactly as it is and work from there.

The more you live in your head the worse the situation will get. That's just the truth. So make it a conscious decision to not only be mindful as much as possible but in general to not get sucked into the looping negative thought patterns that are so easy to get caught in during life's challenges.

Doing so will not only help you solve the problem, or if that's not possible to at least take steps to improve the situation as a whole, but it will help you find peace by resting mindfully in the present reality.

12. Go with the natural flow (but let it go)

Peace isn't found in making everything positive, or eradicating all of life's challenges and finding some "happily ever after", it's found in calmly abiding in the natural ebb and flow of life.

What that means is to live in a way that you're totally accepting of whatever may come in each moment. The highest wisdom is to live life unattached and yet at the same time allow yourself to flow with the natural ups and downs of life.

In Zen, nonattachment is a sign of the highest awakening. But this doesn't mean to live in a way that you're detached from everyday life and the world around you. This is referring more to living unattached from outcomes and ultimately not clinging to things.

To live in this way is to live normally on the surface as anyone else would, perfectly accepting of the rising and crashing of the waves of life, calmly abiding in the natural way of things, yet not clinging to anything or any outcome. It's a deep understanding of the impermanence of the entire world and that suffering and pain are experienced only when we hold tightly to certain thoughts, views, or physical things.

To live in this way is to love even greater than you've ever loved and it's also to feel a deep sense of gratitude in each moment of life and for every little thing in your life. This calm abiding in the natural way of things is the very essence of peace and happiness and the sooner you realize this, let go, and express it in your own life the sooner you'll have the ability to completely transform and transcend your life's challenges.

13. There is no path, only the NOW

This might at first seem a little negative, but it's more a clarification that will . You'll read a lot of "this is a part of your path to something greater", and in some ways this is right. We talked about impermanence and the natural ebb and flow of life earlier, and so you know things are going to get better.

But something within that I want to touch on is the belief that you'll reach some sort of "happily ever after", or at the very least some belief that life is this progressive path towards less and less suffering and naturally more and more happiness.

In some ways, if you work diligently, this can be true. You can work to gain clarity about your life and the world as a whole, realizing greater peace and happiness and learning how to transform your pain and suffering so that they don't affect you the way that they once did.

But what doesn't exist is some naturally progressive path that brings us greater peace and happiness as we experience more and more hardship. While this can be true in some sense, this isn't some natural thing that just happens and it doesn't go how most people imagine it.

This path, more cyclic than it is progressive, isn't one where you have fewer challenges, but where you have fewer attachments. The key is to learn how to transform the challenges themselves so that they no longer affect you the way they once did. And this can only be done in the NOW. That is, resting in the present moment.

In fact, it's wrong to even look at it as a path because all that ever exists is the eternal now of the present moment. If you really think and look deeply on this, you'll realize this path you envision doesn't even exist, and that the only thing that's real is the present moment itself.

Instead of looking at it as some progressive path to greater peace and happiness, understand that it's more of a progressive letting go of things so that you can rest more "in tune" with the natural vibration of life in the now. And the closer you get to matching this vibration, the happier and more at peace you feel.

Why is this important to the topic at hand? The initial idea of a "path to greatness" naturally makes us want to "push through" our difficulties. That is, as long as we just keep pushing we'll get through them and discover a better life where we're home clear of challenges.

But this just brings us further from the natural vibration of life. By looking at it as what it really is, you existing as a wave crashing and flowing with the natural flow of things, able to overcome the constant cycle by learning how to transform and therefore transcend pain and suffering, you're bringing yourself in tune with the natural vibration, or natural way, of life. And this is what brings you true peace and happiness.

14. Love yourself

A lot of things can go through our mind, and emotions can easily overwhelm us, when we're having a bad day. And the majority of those thoughts and emotions are with a critical eye towards ourselves. We feel guilty, inadequate, and sometimes downright stupid.

We tell ourselves we're screw-ups, that we aren't good enough, that the reason we make mistakes like that must be because we're missing "something", and so on.

It's because of this that what you need most right now is to show yourself some love and compassion. Understand that everyone makes mistakes and that there's nothing wrong with you nor is there anything missing from you.

Whether it was, in fact, your mistake or not, it doesn't help to tear yourself down. You need to express love, compassion, and understanding towards yourself, but only you'll know how.

It might be letting yourself know that you're not messed up, or reminding yourself that not everyone's perfect, telling yourself that everyone makes mistakes, or just telling yourself that you're good enough.

Whatever you're going through, make sure to remind yourself that you're human. By that I mean you're both prone to making mistakes but also totally and completely whole, so don't convince yourself that you're screwed up or lacking (because you're not).

15. Whatever you do DON'T QUIT

This requires the use of the other various points I've mentioned thus far, but ultimately the one thing that matters most in the moment of experiencing that challenge is just to not quit.

Whatever you do, just don't quit. What that means is don't give up thinking the situation is going to get better and don't stop living in a way that you know this will pass.

Naturally, after a while we start to get tired and begin to question if we can keep going on. While this doesn't necessarily mean the worst, that we're considering doing something very bad, it might still mean we're considering altogether giving up on the situation getting better in any way.

This is often the worst thing you can do, as this will usually open the gate to other bad things coming into your life as a result. So whatever you do, however many points on this list you have to use, if you have to talk to a loved one or send me an email because you're just not sure what else you can do- don't quit.

Remember that nothing lasts forever, and this includes your bad day and even your long-term challenges. So absolutely, positively, no matter what- don't quit.

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No matter what you're going through, know that you have options. There are things that you can do in any situation to not only improve the situation itself but also to improve how you perceive the situation, which changes everything.

Whatever's happening around you, you have the power within you to significantly change the situation. Above all, never forget that.

101 Powerful Zen Sayings and Proverbs to Live By

"The world is its own magic."

- Shunryu Suzuki

When I was first introduced to Zen, I really had no idea what I was getting myself into. I was in the middle of a sort of "path of self-discovery", let's call it, when Zen promptly hit me upside the head.

Two years before that, I started reading a book. This book largely became my life for those two years, and I consequently ended up reading it ten times more than any other book I had read in my entire life up until then. The book? Tao of Jeet Kune Do.

For those who don't know, Tao of Jeet Kune Do is the book Bruce Lee is most well known for outside of his films. He wrote a lot, and after his passing at the young age of 32 his family and students gradually released to the public various books and collections of his notes, but none received the notoriety that the very first collection, Tao of Jeet Kune Do, did.

Bruce Lee was nearly as much a philosopher and mystic as he was a martial artist. And Bruce Lee's philosophy on the martial arts was heavily influenced by Zen.

So much so that the first ten or fifteen pages of the Tao of Jeet Kune Do is dedicated solely to his favorite snippets from various Zen texts. And it's these very same pages that would be my first introduction to Zen.

I had read the Tao of Jeet Kune Do earlier in my life and was completely lost by this first section of the book, and likewise would be again when reading it years later. It might have been my first somewhat introduction to Zen, but at the time I had no idea what the heck I was reading. There was stuff like this:

Voidness is that which stands right in the middle between this and that. The void is all-inclusive, having no opposite - there is nothing which it excludes or opposes. It is living void because all forms come out of it and whoever realizes the void is filled with life and power and the love of all human beings.

As much as I loved the martial arts, it was this first section of the book which I considered most fascinating. I remember sitting down for long periods, contemplating what the various snippets from this section meant.

While at the time I didn't know what most of it meant, those moments of contemplation would later help me piece things together as I began to learn more about Zen.

You can't technically talk about Zen, or write about Zen, because true Zen can't be put into words. Ultimately, I can only point the way.

Leading people down the path, helping them discover the truth for themselves is part of what Buddhaimonia is about. I don't presume to be some magical guru that has special abilities or whom you should follow because "only I know the way".

You'll find the way in whispers of truth which you experience in your own everyday life. And as you follow that trail, you'll find greater peace and joy throughout each day.

Not a sense of relief though, that's shallow, I'm talking about a sense of peace that washes over every part of you and seems to bring everything into focus, even if at first just for a moment.

The below list of Zen quotes and Zen proverbs are bits of universal wisdom and insight which I've gathered over the past few years, mostly from teachers whom I have an immense amount of respect for. People such as:

Thich Nhat Hanh Shunryu Suzuki Alan Watts Dogen Zenji Eckhart Tolle Byron Katie Osho D. T. Suzuki Rumi Buddha

I've amassed these from years of reading books and articles (I love buddhismnow.com) and listening to a lot of audio. Sometimes it feels like I'm following an invisible trail, laid out step by step from past mystics and spiritual figures. It's like one big game of connecting the dots. And this is a trail that anyone can follow.

I narrowed this list down from some 250 original quotes to the essential, the ones which held the most significance for me and which I felt would bring the most value to you. I feel that even a single quote can have a profound effect. A quote can give us insight into something new or confirm something which we've felt or experienced.

As with all of Zen, the below Zen quotes aren't about beliefs or ideas, but universal wisdom which you can discover in your own daily life. And Zen is just one way to these universal truths, countless mystics and spiritual traditions have come to the very same insights independently that perfectly echo what Zen has discovered. This is why you'll see quotes from people other than notable Zen figures, such as Rumi and Martin Luther King Jr.

Zen is about pointing to the universal everyday wisdom all around you, about getting you to experience things purely "as they are", not about convincing you of some specific way of thinking, or about stamping some specific label on something.

Don't get caught up in thinking something is "Zen" or anything like that, these are simply bits of wisdom pointing to universal truth. Treat them as such and let them guide you towards a life of greater peace and joy.


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101 Powerful Zen Sayings and Proverbs to Live By

I separated the quotes and proverbs below based on a number of major sections to help you piece together their meaning. Keep in mind though that each section is really just a "shade" of the same one thing, and so you'll notice that many of these can be placed under multiple categories.

Worry less about what category these fall into and more about receiving the message purely as intended and you'll get the most from this list.

The Present Moment and Mindfulness

“This is the real secret of life -- to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play.”

- Alan Watts

“The only thing that is ultimately real about your journey is the step that you are taking at this moment. That's all there ever is.”

- Eckhart Tolle

"Wherever you are, be there totally."

- Eckhart Tolle

"I’m here to tell you that the path to peace is right there, when you want to get away."

- Pema Chödrön

"When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it."

- Eckhart Tolle

"If you miss the present moment, you miss your appointment with life. That is very serious!"

- Thich Nhat Hanh

"Practice is this life, and realization is this life, and this life is revealed right here and now."

- Maezumi Roshi

"If you want to change the world, start with the next person who comes to you in need."

- B. D. Schiers

"My experience is that the teachers we need most are the people we're living with right now."

- Byron Katie

"Guilt, regret, resentment, sadness & all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past & not enough presence."

- Eckhart Tolle

"Throughout this life, you can never be certain of living long enough to take another breath."

- Huang Po

"Awareness is the greatest agent for change."

- Eckhart Tolle

"When you do something, you should burn yourself up completely, like a good bonfire, leaving no trace of yourself."

- Shunryu Suzuki

“The art of living... is neither careless drifting on the one hand nor fearful clinging to the past on the other. It consists in being sensitive to each moment, in regarding it as utterly new and unique, in having the mind open and wholly receptive.”

- Alan Watts

“The intuitive recognition of the instant, thus reality... is the highest act of wisdom.”

- D.T. Suzuki

“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves - slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.”

- Thich Nhat Hanh

"And when they played they really played. And when they worked they really worked."

- Dr. Seuss

Interbeing

"Preparing food is not just about yourself and others. It is about everything!"

- Shunryu Suzuki

"Things derive their being and nature by mutual dependence and are nothing in themselves"

- Nagarjuna

"Nothing ever exists entirely alone. Everything is in relation to everything else."

- Buddha

“Heaven and earth and I are of the same root, The ten-thousand things and I are of one substance.”

- Seng-chao

"It really boils down to this: that all life is interrelated. We are all caught in an inescapable network of mutuality, tied in a single garment of destiny. Whatever affects one directly, affects all indirectly.”

- Martin Luther King, Jr.

“We are here to awaken from our illusion of separateness.”

- Thích Nhat Hanh

"Heaven & earth & I are of the same root. Ten thousand things & I are of one substance."

- Sêng-chao

Impermanence

“One must be deeply aware of the impermanence of the world.”

- Dogen

True Self and No-Self

"The practice of Zen is forgetting the self in the act of uniting with something."

- Koun Yamada

"I don't let go of concepts - I meet them with understanding. Then they let go of me."

- Byron Katie

"The Zen expression "Kill the Buddha!" means to kill any concept of the Buddha as something apart from oneself."

- Peter Matthiessen

"When you hear that all beings are Buddha, don’t fall into the error of thinking there’s more than one Buddha."

- Zen Graffiti

"The self divides into ten billion distinct illuminating spirits. Distinguish these without falling into names and classifications."

- Hongzhi

"To study Buddhism is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self. To forget the self is to be awakened by all things."

- Dogen

"Melting our attachment to self is the most powerful medication for bringing mental and emotional imbalances in check."

- Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

"Have good trust in yourself ... not in the One that you think you should be, but in the One that you are."

- Maezumi Roshi

Direct Experience

“My finger can point to the moon, but my finger is not the moon. You don’t have to become my finger, nor do you have to worship my finger. You have to forget my finger, and look at where it is pointing.”

- Osho

"To accept some idea of truth without experiencing it is like a painting of a cake on paper which you cannot eat."

- Suzuki Roshi

"Zen has no business with ideas."

- D.T. Suzuki

"What is important is not the right doctrine but the attainment of the true experience. It is giving up believing in belief."

- Alan Keightley

“The menu is not the meal.”

- Alan Watts

“Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.”

- Alan Watts

Awakening and Everyday Life

"People sleep, and when they die they wake."

- Muhammad

"Today, you can decide to walk in freedom. You can choose to walk differently. You can walk as a free person, enjoying every step."

- Thich Nhat Hanh

"When an ordinary man attains knowledge, he is a sage; when a sage attains understanding, he is an ordinary man."

- Zen Proverb

If we don't occupy ourself with everything, then peaceful mind will have nowhere to abide."

- Shen-hui

"Flow with whatever may happen and let your mind be free: Stay centered by accepting whatever you are doing. This is the ultimate."

- Chuang

"The Buddha talked about saving all beings from delusion, not converting them to a new religion."

- Buddhism Now

"Let your mind wander in the pure and simple. Be one with the infinite. Let all things take their course."

- Chuang Tzu

"Let go over a cliff, die completely, and then come back to life -- after that you cannot be deceived."

- Zen Proverb

"The personal life deeply lived always expands into truths beyond itself."

- Anais Nin

"Each step along the Buddha’s path to happiness requires practising mindfulness until it becomes part of your daily life."

- Henepola Gunaratana

"Power over others is weakness disguised as strength. True power is within & available to you now."

- Eckhart Tolle

"Body and mind dropped off."

- Dogen describing enlightenment

"It's not about approving or liking, but just being able to allow the world to be the way it is without resenting, hating, or judging it."

- Buddhism Now

"Only when you can be extremely pliable and soft can you be extremely hard and strong."

- Zen Proverb

"It all depends on you. You can go on sleeping forever, you can wake up right this moment."

- Osho

"To understand everything is to forgive everything"

- Gautama Siddhartha

"Any enlightenment which requires to be authenticated, certified, recognized, congratulated, is false, or at least incomplete."

- R.H. Blyth

"Self-realization is effortless. What you are trying to find is what you already are."

- Ramesh Balsekar

"When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want."

- Byron Katie

"The way out of life & death is not some special technique; essential thing is to penetrate to the root of life & death."

- Bukko

"The aim of spiritual life is to awaken a joyful freedom, a benevolent and compassionate heart in spite of everything."

- Jack Kornfield

“People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don't even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child -- our own two eyes. All is a miracle.”

- Thích Nhat Hanh

"Not thinking about anything is Zen. Once you know this, walking, sitting, or lying down, everything you do is Zen.”

- Bodhidharma

"To follow the path, look to the master, follow the master, walk with the master, see through the master, become the master."

- Zen Proverb

"Learning Zen is a phenomenon of gold & dung. Before you learn it, it's like gold; after you learn it, it's like dung."

- Zen Proverb

Reality and the True Nature of Things

“You are a function of what the whole universe is doing in the same way that a wave is a function of what the whole ocean is doing.”

- Alan Watts

"At the still-point in the center of the circle one can see the infinite in all things."

- Chuang Tzu

“In the scenery of spring, nothing is better, nothing worse; the flowering branches are; some long, some short.”

- Eicho

"There is no mistake in nature."

- Byron Katie

"Still water has no mind to receive the image of the migrating geese."

- Zen Proverb

"All the things that truly matter, beauty, love, creativity, joy and inner peace arise from beyond the mind."

- Eckhart Tolle

“No snowflake ever falls in the wrong place.”

- Zen Proverb

"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I'll meet you there."

- Rumi

"Why is the tao so valuable? Because it is everywhere, and everyone can use it. This is why those who seek will find."

- Lao Tzu

“Do not seek the truth, only cease to cherish your opinions.”

- Seng-ts’an

"Any experience of reality is indescribable!"

- R. D. Laing

"No thought, no reflection, no analysis, no cultivation, no intention; let it settle itself."

- Tilopa

"You're never given more pain than you can handle. You never, ever get more than you can take."

- Byron Katie

"As a bee gathering nectar does not harm or disturb the color & fragrance of the flower; so do the wise move through the world."

- Buddha

"Zazen is an activity that is an extension of the universe. Zazen is not the life of an individual, it's the universe that's breathing."

- Dogen

“The whole moon and the entire sky are reflected in one dewdrop on the grass.”

- Dogen

“You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself.”

- Alan Watts

“Things are as they are. Looking out into the universe at night, we make no comparisons between right and wrong stars, nor between well and badly arranged constellations.”

- Alan Watts

“Through our eyes, the universe is perceiving itself. Through our ears, the universe is listening to its harmonies. We are the witnesses through which the universe becomes conscious of its glory, of its magnificence.”

- Alan Watts

"Tao in the world is like a river flowing home to the sea."

- Lao Tzu

“Try to imagine what it will be like to go to sleep and never wake up... now try to imagine what it was like to wake up having never gone to sleep.”

- Alan Watts

“Who would then deny that when I am sipping tea in my tearoom I am swallowing the whole universe with it and that this very moment of my lifting the bowl to my lips is eternity itself transcending time and space?”

- D.T. Suzuki

The Way and Non-Striving

"The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness."

- Eric Hoffer

"The resistance to the unpleasant situation is the root of suffering."

- Ram Dass

“For things to reveal themselves to us, we need to be ready to abandon our views about them.”

- Thích Nhat Hanh

“If you are unable to find the truth right where you are, where else do you expect to find it?”

- Dogen

“The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.”

- Alan Watts

"Life isn't as serious as the mind makes it out to be."

- Eckhart Tolle

“Man suffers only because he takes seriously what the gods made for fun.”

- Alan Watts

“Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone.”

- Alan Watts

"The greatest effort is not concerned with results."

- Atisha

"When I feel like dancing, I dance. I don't care if anyone else is dancing or if everyone else is laughing at me. I dance."

- Rachel Danson

"A follower of the way has neither form nor shape, neither root nor trunk; nor dwelling place; like a fish leaping in the water."

- Rinzai Zen proverb

"I cannot tell you any spiritual truth that you don't know already. All I can do is remind you of what you have forgotten."

- Eckhart Tolle

"Every being is in search of truth, but small fears go on preventing you."

- Osho

"All true artists, whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness."

- Eckhart Tolle

“I have lived with several Zen masters -- all of them cats.”

- Eckhart Tolle


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The Beginner's Guide to Spirituality

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For most, spirituality is a foggy topic. It's something that most of us believe is important, but which we've barely the slightest idea about.

We know it has to do with something "greater" than ourselves, either in the form of a God, nature, or the fact that we're interconnected much in the same way that a tapestry is woven together, and we know almost instinctively that it's important to practice regularly the act of "touching" that source of existence, or source of life, in some way whether we actually do it or not.

Unfortunately, that's about as specific as most of us get with regards to our understanding of spirituality. But fortunately, while it may seem oversimplified, that's more than enough to serve as a basis for a more thorough understanding of what spirituality is and how it actually takes shape in our daily lives.

So let's get to it...

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What this Guide will Do for You

Because the topic of spirituality is a big one, and I intend to cover A LOT of ground, I want us to establish ahead of time what the purpose of this guide is and how it will help you so that you can stay focused throughout your reading. This guide will:

  1. Explain clearly what spirituality is
  2. Explain clearly why spirituality, and a spiritual practice, is important, and
  3. Cover various practices which you can apply to begin cultivating a sense of spirituality in your own life from the very moment you stop reading

Ultimately, this guide is intended to part the clouds so to speak on your understanding as to what spirituality is, clearly explain its importance, and then provide a set of simple and straightforward guidelines and practices which you can then use to build your own spiritual practice.

My intention is to give you sensible, universal, and practical answers to the various difficult questions that rest within the idea of what spirituality is and it's purpose.

After reading this guide, my hope is that you'll never again wonder what spirituality is or why it's important and that you'll have the tools to begin following your own daily spiritual practice if you haven't already done so before this (and if you have, that you pick up on something to deepen your existing practice).

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Spirituality is an Experience

Spirituality is difficult to define. In a sense, both because few people seem to really know what it means (even their own interpretation is clouded) and because we can't all seem to agree on a definition, it's undefinable.

Well, that was easy, wasn't it!? Let's go home...

Getting serious now, spirituality is an experience, one which can be placed into words but only as effectively as when someone explains what it was like to get bitten by a shark, assuming you've never been bitten by a shark before.

You've probably been bitten by something before, but not likely a shark (your brother, for instance). And while you probably haven't seen a shark before face-to-face, you've surely seen a picture, or maybe even viewed one through the glass at an aquarium.

So while someone can attempt to explain their spiritual experience to you, and you'll be able to piece together an idea of what they're describing to you, you'll never fully comprehend their experience unless you experience it for yourself.

That's what all levels of spiritual experience are like.

The point being that the definition or explanation isn't the actual experience itself. They're separate things no matter how accurately it ever seems to be explained, therefore you can't gain an accurate understanding of spirituality or a spiritual experience through listening to someone's explanation of it (no matter how hard you believe in something).

So how does this realization help us practically? The point is essentially this:

Seek to experience spirituality directly, as opposed to learning about it or discerning it through intellectual means.

It's for this reason that I begin the guide with this section, as a reminder that the words written here are not spirituality in themselves, but a gateway to it.

Use what I describe in the third section of this guide, "How Can You Develop Spirituality?", in order to develop your own spiritual practice and experience it for yourself.

Defining Spirituality

Having said that, you can get a pretty good idea of what spirituality is about by looking for and studying the similarities within what various people call (or have called) spiritual activities and experiences.

What's the central idea? The signs across all religions and spiritual traditions, all beliefs and understandings, and all time periods point to one unequivocal definition:

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*Spirituality: Having to do with coming into, connecting with, or being one with, a higher or "ultimate" level of existence or consciousness (also known as the ultimate reality, the fabric of existence, the ground of being, God, reality, nature, universal or greater consciousness, etc.).

This definition fits all religions and spiritual traditions known to man. The only thing up for interpretation is what exactly the ultimate level of existence looks like. By that, I don't mean physically, but it's qualities or elements.

Discussion on the qualities or elements of the ultimate level of existence is beyond the scope of this guide, but I would like to offer one important bit of advice: don't make the discovery of such things a primarily intellectual process, or think it's an act of belief. Do that and you'll get nowhere fast. Follow your spiritual practice and discover the qualities of the "ground of your being" through your own direct experience. This is the only way.

Back to our topic. Based on our definition, for something to be spiritual would mean that it would need to have the quality of being able to connect us (or reconnect us) with the ultimate level of existence. Remember this when we get to Part 3.

Why do I attempt to define spirituality even though the definition itself can't ever transmit a complete or accurate understanding of it? Because just as language isn't the thing itself, the experience, but still helpful in allowing you to understand or become closer to said thing, having a clear and universal definition of spirituality can help us to bring clarity to our own spiritual practices.

So use this definition to bring clarity to your own spiritual practice and help you in building (or deepening) your practice.

Understanding Spirituality

OK, so we have a clear and concise definition of spirituality which helps us understand what it is in a basic sense and how to go about pursuing it, but we still don't have a very clear understanding of it.

There's one very important point I'd like to cover with regards to that which will help you further understand what spirituality is with much greater clarity. In this case, it will help you begin to understand what spirituality feels like in a real sense.

Spirituality, more than anything, is about consciousness.Or more specifically, it's about touching or "tuning into" a higher level of consciousness.

Activities can trigger this (such as religious activities), the effect essentially being you "coming in tune" with reality (and the ultimate level of existence) as it were and coming into this expanded state of consciousnesses, but the activity can also be done in a way that it doesn't trigger this effect.

So spirituality isn't what you do, but how you do it. Or more correctly, it's who you're being in this exact moment. Or in other words, the signal you're transmitting.

Right now, you exist within a certain state of consciousness, and that state of consciousness can be the greater expanded state of consciousness we identify with spirituality (feelings of being connected to God in Western religions and the "universal" consciousness in Eastern traditions), or it can be your ordinary everyday consciousness.

In each and every moment, you choose which state of consciousness you reside in. It's completely up to you. It's always been up to you, you just didn't know it.

Of course, this doesn't mean that you can just flip a switch after reading this and awaken, but the reality is the only thing standing in your way of realizing this greater level of consciousness is yourself.

Spirituality and Everyday Life

To further clarify your understanding of spirituality, I want to make one last and very important point clear:

There is no difference between spirituality and your everyday life.

Spirituality is nothing special. By that I mean it's nothing unique, or out of the ordinary. It's inseparable from our everyday life, in fact, it is our very everyday life. Any effort to separate the two is a misunderstanding.

Our definition of spirituality talks of touching the ground of our being, but everything is a part of that (or more accurately, the ground of being or ultimate level of existence is reflected in all things), it's all interconnected, so it's really just the process of reconnecting with our true nature.

Because spirituality and everyday life are one and the same thing, spirituality is simply the act of touching your everyday life deeply and truly, with all mental barriers removed.

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Finding Wholeness and the Benefits of Spiritual Practice

"We are not meant to be perfect, we are meant to be whole."

- Jane Fonda

Spirituality is important ultimately because the further we become distanced from the ultimate level of reality, the fabric of existence, God, reality, universal consciousness, simply nature, or whatever the heck you want to call it, the more "haywire" we act.

Our software starts to short circuit, or in other words, if we were an instrument we'd be out of tune.

So then, keeping with our tuning/vibration example, spiritual practice is the act of using yourself as a sort of instrument which can connect or communicate with the ground of being when properly tuned.

By doing so, we realize inner peace and true happiness, both lasting and unbreakable provided we continue to keep ourselves tuned (continue to practice daily).

Spiritual practice is a daily endeavor, most commonly in the form of meditation or prayer, the by far and large most common spiritual exercises.

It's important to point this out because if you don't practice every day you'll become out of tune again (or never become in-tune in the first place), so it's very important to make spiritual practice a daily endeavor and not a secondary "keep me running efficiently so I can work better" sort of supplementary activity. It needs to stand on its own as important in its own right.

In a weird way, when it gets right down to it, spirituality helps us find our place. We go our entire life feeling like something's missing and as if there's supposed to be something more, or like we're lacking or missing a piece of ourselves.

Spiritual practice "cures" us by allowing us to touch the ground of our being and realize our "wholeness" once again. It completes (or re-completes) us in a sense, much in the same way that many of us think "the one" or our true love is supposed to do once we find them.

For this reason, there really could be nothing more important than following an authentic spiritual practice.

Following an authentic, experience-based, spiritual practice is not only the source of true peace and happiness for ourselves but the source of greater peace for the world at large.

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Things to Watch Out for: Spiritual Materialism

A regular spiritual practice gives us the ability to operate and exist in this world effectively which profoundly affects our peace and well-being.

But keep in mind that a spiritual practice isn't about adding something new to your life, acquiring something, or improving yourself, but about reducing friction through dissolving the ego and re-tuning yourself with the ultimate.

Especially in the West, spiritual materialism is a real problem. Spiritual materialism is the desire for your spiritual practice to gain you personal advancement.

It's the belief that an all-seeing judge is sitting above the clouds ready and waiting to judge you if you do bad and reward you if you do good. This distorts spiritual practice into something altogether different and actually promotes the ego and perpetuates suffering in the long run.

But to live in this way is highly damaging. Spiritual practice is, in large part, an act of dissolving the ego in order to realize your true nature.

But spiritual materialism only seeks to further promote the ego and is directly at odds with an authentic spiritual practice of any kind.

Be warned- attempting spiritual practices with this ideal will only perpetuate feelings of lack and incompleteness, not cure them.

True peace and happiness aren't achieved by promoting the ego, only by finding wholeness through an authentic spiritual practice which dissolves the ego and cultivates love for all beings.

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Defining Spiritual Practice and Identifying Obstacles

"The world is not to be put in order, the world is order incarnate. It is for us to put ourselves in unison with this order."

- Henry Miller

So now you know what it is, and see clearly why it's important. But where do you start? This can be as confusing as the first two questions in this guide, so I'll go into detail as to what kinds of activities really allow you to touch your true or "ultimate" nature and develop a sense of spirituality.

First, what is a spiritual practice? What does one look like?

Based on our definition and complete understanding of spirituality, a spiritual practice is:

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*Spiritual exercise: Any activity that allows you to touch your sense of spirituality (your perception of the ultimate level of existence).

*Spiritual practice: Any set or collection of activities that allows you to touch your sense of spirituality (your perception of the ultimate level of existence).

Also, spiritual practice can be broken down into two sections:

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By obstacles, I'm mostly referring to things within yourself which are keeping you from fully expressing your true nature.

Various things can hold you back, such as fear, anger, and other limiting beliefs, but they all center around the existence of the ego, the single solitary obstacle on your path to realizing spiritual awakening.

The ego is what convinces you that you're a separate entity, apart from other living and non-living beings. It's an "artificial" construct born from our own limited conscious experience.

Because of this, dissolving the ego is a major focus of spiritual practice and really the one obstacle you need to focus on overcoming (or dissolving).

Developing a Spiritual Practice

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There are various angles you can approach spiritual practice from, but for the sake of the guide, I'm going to talk about the fundamentals and my own personal practice.

All this talk of spirituality and spiritual practice might seem other-worldly, but I assure you that spiritual practice itself is as real and down to Earth as it gets.

What I mean by that is, spiritual practice, for the most part, is really just you working on you (or discovering the real you) in very real and practical ways.

Forget all the fluff and shiny stuff, all the "ultimate level of existence" this and "ground of being" that, spiritual practice is really about you becoming self-aware and shedding the ego. Or in other words, it's about waking up in a very literal sense and realizing that you're the very ground of existence yourself (and not the "little" you, the separate person your ego works to convince you that you are).

The below are key aspects of spiritual practice which you can use to build a strong foundation for your own spiritual practice. By no means is this section meant to be all-inclusive, but rather to provide you with a strong foundation and some direction to build your own practice.

1. Awareness (or Mindfulness)

"The first step is to make friends with ourselves."

- Chogyam Trungpa

Mindfulness is the foundation of spiritual practice. Nothing much more needs to be said than that.

Spiritual practice is the practice of discovering the truth, and mindfulness is the path to obtaining clarity and realizing that truth.

To be clear, without mindfulness, a spiritual practice is possible. But a spiritual practice not based on developing awareness, or mindfulness, as it's foundation is ineffective at best.

Chogyam Trungpa, the 20th-century Buddhist master, said of spiritual practice, "The first step is to make friends with yourself", and it's through mindfulness that we learn to do so.

Mindfulness can transform your very life from the ground up. The simple practice of becoming fully conscious of yourself in this moment, and in a way discovering yourself deeply for the first time, transformed my own life and continues to do so in many ways.

For these reasons, and others, the first place I'd suggest you start in your spiritual practice is with mindfulness.

Virtually Everything is connected to, or enhanced by, mindfulness. Hence why it's the foundation of a sound spiritual practice.

Also, it's through mindfulness that we can see clearly how spiritual practice is inseparable from everyday life. To be mindful while sweeping the floor or eating a meal, deeply aware of your interconnectedness to the Earth and the rest of the world around you, can itself be a highly spiritual exercise.

Whatever you do, whether it's doing Hatha Yoga, sitting in silence, going to church on Sunday to pray, or just sweeping the floor, do it with mindfulness to bring yourself into the experience fully and to touch your sense of spirituality.

Action Step: Sit in Meditation

You can practice mindfulness in any situation, but before you jump out into the world and attempt to practice mindfulness while doing everyday activities, I'd suggest developing your mindfulness and concentration through sitting and following your breath with mindfulness.

This is the most basic, most common, and a highly effective form of meditation. All you need to do is sit and follow your breath with mindfulness:

1. Sit. First, find a quiet place to sit with minimal interruptions. You can sit however you'd like, but the lotus or half-lotus positions are preferable because they're the most stable.

2. Breathe. Turn your attention to your breath. Don't attempt to control your breath. The idea is to follow your breath with your complete awareness, not to breathe itself, so just let it go and observe it mindfully.

Even if your breath is short and sporadic, let it go and it will naturally calm itself simply through you turning your attention to it.

Follow each in-breath and out-breath from start to finish. If you become distracted by a thought, feeling, or sensation then simply observe that thought, feeling or sensation with your awareness and then turn your attention back to your breath.

3. Count. Now that you have the general idea, we're going to add a little exercise with which to improve your concentration and mindfulness which will gradually allow you to use your mindfulness in more difficult everyday situations.

Count each in-breath and out-breath starting from 1 and work your way up to 10. You'll almost surely not get to 10 now, if ever, and that's OK. The point isn't to work your way up to being able to be mindful from 1-10 without any interruptions, the exercise is simply used to improve your concentration, which helps you to touch the activities you do in your everyday life deeply and realize insight.

Don't expect to ever calm your thinking to the point of silence, because it won't happen, but neither is that the point. The point is simply to "be" and to study yourself directly through mindfulness.

Just sit and enjoy yourself, without expecting anything from your meditation, and observe everything that occurs while sitting in silence with your mindfulness.

*Bonus exercise: The next time you notice yourself feeling a strong emotion, take a seat (if the situation permits, if not just find some privacy).

Take a moment to "sit with" the emotion in mindfulness. Feel the emotion running through you and observe how it affects your breathing and your thinking. Imagine yourself embracing the emotion with your mindfulness and accepting it fully.

Breathe mindfully for a few minutes in order calm your mind and bring the emotion under control. The more you practice mindfulness the more you'll be able to notice with clarity when strong emotions arise in you and the more skillfully you'll be able to handle them.

2. Non-Attachment (Letting Go)

Spiritual practice is, in a way, the practice of letting go of attachments such as wrong perceptions and limiting beliefs and realizing how to fully embrace life without clinging.

This is commonly misunderstood to mean that you should or will stop feeling emotions, that you'll stop getting angry, feeling sad, or the like. But non-attachment refers more to the way in which emotions control us (or how we cling to them) than anything else.

Realizing non-attachment means you've learned how to handle your emotions skillfully and can feel fear without letting the fear control you, feel anger arise without allowing it to lash out in your actions, and feel sadness without letting it grip you and move you into damaging behaviors.

In my guide, The Beginner's Guide to Letting Go and Becoming Enlightened Through Non-Attachment, I break down attachment, non-attachment, and how to truly let go. I'd suggest checking that out for more in-depth information on the subject (it's a big one).

Action Step: Meditate on Impermanence

A good meditation for letting go of attachments is to meditate on impermanence.

It's a rather easy to observe the fact that everything in this world is impermanent and ever-changing, and this fact makes it easier to let go of the various attachments we hold onto in this life because it makes us face the fact that our life as it is and everything connected to it will end some day.

There's various ways you can go about doing this. In The Beginner's Guide to Letting Go, I detail a meditation on death, but if you're just starting out in your spiritual practice that might be a bit intense for now.

If that's the case, you can start by meditating on your life "as it is". That is, sit and imagine that all of the people, animals, buildings, pictures, and memories that you consider "yours" or a part of your life are beginning to disappear, one by one.

Start with the easy stuff- the pictures, videos, physical possessions, your house, car, etc. Then move on to the harder parts- any pets, memorable locations, memories, and finally the people themselves.

This meditation isn't intended to cultivate a feeling of indifference in you so that when you lose them you won't feel pain. That's not what non-attachment and letting go are about.

On the contrary, realizing non-attachment means that you're ever aware of the impermanence of life and therefore cherish life and all those things you care about within it to the fullest.

*Bonus exercise: If you want to take it a step further, try this exercise: pick something materially valuable to you, and throw it away. Don't get crazy here, giving up your most cherished possession or anything, but make sure it's something which you have some sort of attachment to, however minimal.

This could be a picture of someone you care about, a special hat you used to wear as a teen that holds within it nice memories, or something similar.

This might sound a little intense to some, but it works. These physical possessions are typically nothing more than a source of positive memories for us, but giving one up is a sharp reminder to appreciate the present moment and your life as it is.

It's in the present moment where all memories are born. If we live our lives constantly reflecting on the past we'll die having only really lived a fraction of our lives.

3. Dissolving the Ego (and Realizing Big Mind)

 "Being self-aware of one's ego is the true discipline of all spiritual paths."

- Dzigar Kongtrul Rinpoche

Dissolving the ego is such an important part of spiritual practice because the ego is at fault for much of the suffering we experience in our lives. And it's the "single solitary me" syndrome that the ego convinces us of that is most damaging to us.

The ego would have you believe that you're a separate self, disconnected from the rest of life. Not only is this untrue, it's highly damaging. On the other hand, realizing that the ego is an illusion and working to dissolve it is a great source of peace and happiness.

The first step to dissolving the ego is a matter of realizing that it itself is just an illusion of our own creation. This is done through various means, most notably various forms of meditation.

A spiritual practice isn't a spiritual practice without a focus on dissolving the ego, even with regards to Western religions such as Judaism and Christianity where humility and servitude to God is seen as altogether necessary.

In Western spiritual and religious traditions the word "ego" might not be used regularly, and the idea somewhat different, but the intention is very much the same. If you look closely and honestly you'll notice quite a few similarities between seemingly different spiritual traditions.

But there's more to it than just dissolving the ego. If the ego is an illusion, what's real? Big mind, as it's sometimes referred to in Zen.

This is the ultimate level of existence we talked about earlier, a level of consciousness above that of ordinary consciousness in which we realize our interbeing with all living and non-living things.

Action Step: Meditate on "The You Before You"

This exercise has very simple instructions, but is a very deep and potentially intense subject to meditate on. What is it? I want you to meditate on this question:

Who were you before you were born?

When I say meditate on the question, I mean take a seat and let the question sit in your mind. Place your concentration on the question and simply observe everything that comes to you with mindfulness.

Keep in mind, there's no timetable for a meditation like this. It can take one session, months of sitting in meditation, or even years to realize deep insight as a result of contemplating on this question (or any one like it).

There's many variations of this question, including the Zen koan, "What was your original face, before your parents were born?" These questions might seem baffling, but they have a point, and that's to help you realize your true boundless nature apart from the illusory ego.

This is a difficult path to tread down alone, so I'd suggest you get at least a digital companion. One of my favorites for such meditations is Allan Watts, particularly this best-of audio collection.

*Bonus exercise: Do something purposely embarrassing today. Sounds overly simple and somewhat ridiculous, but just like the last bonus exercise, it's effective. Particularly effective in shaking up your self-image.

We don't notice it, but, every day we purposely do things as well as purposely don't do other things in order to avoid judgment from others.

Your mindfulness practice will begin to make you aware of these occasions, and in doing so will present you with an opportunity for spiritual growth.

4. Love

“When I understand myself, I understand you, and out of that understanding comes love. Love is the missing factor; there is a lack of affection, of warmth in relationship; and because we lack that love, that tenderness, that generosity, that mercy in relationship, we escape into mass action which produces further confusion, further misery. We fill our hearts with blueprints for world reform and do not look to that one resolving factor which is love.”

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Love, often referred to as "loving-kindness" in Buddhism, is the end-all-be-all. It's the very substance which connects us together. By love, I'm specifically referring to cultivating non-romanti love for all living beings.

True love is a love that's not possessive, "I need to have you" "I can't live without you", but a love born of freedom, based on understanding, and characterized by compassion.

Everyone from the Buddha, Jesus Christ, Muhammad, Rumi, the Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, Jiddu Krishnamurti, Yogananda, and countless other sages of past and present have preached this very same point.

Cultivating love, as much as an aspect of spiritual practice, could be considered a unique path in and of itself. To be sure, the truth can be arrived at from numerous different paths, and this, in my opinion, is one of the most powerful.

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Action Step: Love and Compassion Meditation

Meditating on love and compassion, also known as loving-kindness meditation (LKM) in some sects of Buddhism, is the act of cultivating love and compassion for all beings.

The general idea of loving-kindness meditation is to focus on the feelings of love you have for someone close to you- like your son, daughter, mother, father, or a close friend- and imagine those feelings of compassionate love gradually expanding outwards until they cover all beings.

To meditate on love and compassion, follow these 5 steps:

1. You. First, meditate on yourself and imagine feelings of peace and joy washing over you. After a while, let those feelings transform into feelings of strength and solidness, and finally transforming into feelings of love.

This first stage generally feels a bit awkward at the beginning. Don't worry, it's perfectly natural. Cultivating love for yourself is altogether necessary for a healthy spiritual practice and infinitely rewarding.

2. Someone you love. Next, think of someone you love. Imagine that person as vividly as you possibly can and feel those feelings of love swell within you. Accept this person fully in your mind with compassion and freedom and go until you feel those feelings of love swell to their maximum.

3. Someone neutral. Think of someone neutral to you such as a coworker or extended family member you don't see very often. Imagine those feelings of love you built up in step 2 washing over that person freely. Imagine accepting them openly and compassionately just as you do the person you love in step 2.

4. Someone you dislike. Think of someone you dislike (maybe even hate?) and imagine those feelings from step 2 continuing from step 3 into step 4 and washing over the person you dislike just as they did in step 3. It's a good idea to tap into your mutual humanity here as well.

You're both human, both imperfect, and both largely the product of your environment, and that includes your right as well as wrong actions. Understanding this, you can begin to cultivate compassion for this person.

This part won't come right away, so don't expect it to, but it doesn't need to. With time this meditation can help you cultivate love and compassion even for those you dislike. The key is tapping into your mutual humanity and cultivating understanding for their behavior.

Understanding is the foundation of love.

5. All beings. Now take those feelings of love and compassion you cultivated in step 2 and imagine them washing over all beings- you, your loved ones, those you dislike, and all other people either neutral to you or unknown.

Tap into your mutual humanity again for a moment and even imagine these feelings of love extending out to other animals, plants, and the Earth itself.

Expand these feelings of love out until they encompass all beings. Then, rest in this state for a few moments.

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You can do this meditation in 5 minutes, 25 minutes, or much longer depending on your preference and experience with it.

I'd suggest just starting out with an easy 1-2 minutes per stage in order to get used to it as you can easily increase your time later once you've  gotten used to it.

This is a meditation practice you can do daily and one which helps you begin on the path towards developing what's called in Buddhism, "bodhicitta", or "the mind of love".

*Bonus exercise: Simply go about your life-giving kindness and expressing compassion to others while mindfully aware of your interbeing (the state of being interconnected and interdependent upon one another).

There are few things as effective in spiritual practice than connecting directly with others in a deep and mindful way.

That must be the ideal. When two people feel an unconditional attraction for each other, and are ready to sacrifice for one another, they are truly in love. Then only are they ready for an intimate relationship in marriage. Mere possessiveness won't do. When one marriage partner tries to control the other, it shows a lack of real love. But when they express their love in continual thoughtfulness for the true happiness of the other, it becomes divine love. In such a relationship we have a glimpse of the Divine.

- Paramahansa Yogananda

5 Mistakes to Avoid in Your Spiritual Practice

Within spiritual practice, there are a number of critical mistakes which can be made, so to finish The Ultimate Guide to Spirituality I wanted to highlight the most prevalent ones I've encountered in order to help you along your own spiritual journey. They are:

1. Believing that spirituality, and the ultimate level of existence, is outside yourself

This is a surefire way to get confused and lost about spirituality. If you take one thing from this article let it be the knowledge that you can touch your spirituality within your ordinary everyday life.

This might seem odd or unbelievable to some, but the idea that you're a separate self apart from the ultimate level of reality was just as odd to every known legitimate mystic of the last couple thousand years.

I'm not telling you to believe them because you should experience it for yourself. But I am 1) reminding you that you believe you're a separate self just as you believe the belief about not being a separate self seems a little crazy. They're both no more than beliefs rooted in a rudimentary perception of reality (having not looked closely with meditation).

For that reason, follow the signs of those who have tread the path before and seek out the truth in your own direct experience and not what other things or people would have you believe.

2. Closing yourself off to other spiritual traditions

If you close yourself off to other spiritual traditions, you close yourself off to peace and happiness. True peace and happiness are dependent upon you cultivating a deep understanding of the world and our behavior as people.

Understand that we all have various interpretations of the ultimate level of reality. Everyone's at various levels of understanding, gradually advancing their spiritual comprehension. Some root their understanding of the fabric of existence in a belief as opposed to direct experience.

Whatever it is, it's simply a different understanding of one and the same thing. We're all together in this and we all want the same thing. Understanding this, you should embrace those of different spiritual and religious traditions.

If you can do this, you open yourself to a wealth of wisdom with which to learn from.

3. Falling for, or "buying into", spiritual materialism

This is a big one. So big that I included it in 2 sections of the guide. Understand that above all else, this is probably the most important point on this list.

The other points are misunderstandings, misunderstandings that can and often are corrected through an authentic spiritual practice. Spiritual materialism though is something altogether different.

Spiritual materialism is a complete misunderstanding the point of a spiritual practice. It's something which distorts your very perception of what an authentic spiritual practice looks like, and therefore doesn't allow for the practitioner to correct his or herself.

You should very much be a sort of scientist about your spiritual development. Don't believe anything you can't test for yourself through your own direct experience.

4. Closing yourself off to others

By this I mean believing that spiritual practice is about being alone to yourself and doesn't require, or benefit from, interacting with other people.

Most of us have a picture in our heads of a spiritual man living as a hermit away from society on the top of a mountain or something.

It's true, this was a thing for some old spiritual traditions, and there's value in it, but only momentarily. Stay disconnected for too long and you begin to lose touch with certain things. True enlightenment exists when you discover how to use what you've learned in everyday life, not when you need to hide from other people.

The Buddhist sangha, a sangha being a group of practitioners who live and practice together (a spiritual family of sorts), is much more effective because it helps us learn to live deeply and mindfully, and therefore strengthens our spiritual practice, in our everyday lives as opposed to requiring that the person stays secluded from others.

In the same way that a Buddhist monk or nun utilizes their sangha to grow spiritually, you can learn from the people in your own life.

The lessons will be different, and it will likely be more difficult because not everyone around you will be about your same goal of living with mindfulness, cultivating love for all beings, and developing spiritually in general, but it's still an effective way to develop spiritually if you can sift the lessons from your everyday experiences.

 5. Not practicing daily

Spiritual practice isn't just an "every once in a while" type of thing. Practicing in this way is one of the biggest mistakes you can make.

Many people think it's enough for stress relief and "re-balancing" to do something nourishing once a month or less.

But that isn't enough for a healthy spiritual practice, and it isn't enough to nourish your well-being. A daily practice, one which touches your sense of spirituality and nourishes your well-being should be a daily practice.

Your practice will often be indistinguishable from your everyday life, though. This is because it's a lot about how you react to what you do in your normal everyday experiences, not about adding a bunch of new things to your life (daily sitting meditation and whatever else aside).

Of course, what your daily practice looks like is ultimately up to you. But one thing is for certain- it should be a daily practice.

Spirituality is All Around You

Keep in mind, the ultimate level of existence isn't necessarily anything "special". You may understand it to be simply the physical world you can see and touch (i.e. reality, suchness, or nature), believing that the ultimate truths of this world are tangible and that your spiritual practice simply allows you to touch them deeply.

This is in line with a Buddhist path such as Zen. Zen may offer the practitioner a path to touching the ground of being and realizing their true nature, but it doesn't emphasize placing names to such things or expounding upon them intellectually.

Instead, it places its focus on practice and realizing the truth in your everyday experience, and doesn't pretend that such things are separate from the physical world we can see and touch.

This is the spiritual path I most follow, although I appreciate and have been deeply touched by other Buddhist teachers as well as many non-Buddhist teachers.

This guide was intended to help you gain clarity about and realize the importance of spirituality, as well as to either discover the beginnings of your own spiritual practice or deepen your existing practice.

I hope it's been able to do some or all of that for you.

“Whatever precious jewel there is in the heavenly worlds, there is nothing comparable to one who is Awakened.”

- The Buddha

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